Category: Self-Help


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Setting Healthy Boundaries:
The secret to happiness
Thursday, January 28, 2016
6:30pm – 8:00pm
at Intuitive Psychology, PLC
Scottsdale, AZ

Sometimes we may find ourselves agreeing to do things that we really do not want to do, taking on problems that are not ours, or tolerating rude behavior because we would rather avoid conflict than stand up for ourselves. Having clear boundaries, those personal lines that mark the things for which we are responsible, is crucial to a healthy, balanced life. Problems tend to arise when we forget when to say yes, and how to say no. And the good news…it’s not nearly as difficult to do as you might think…and the rewards are great. In this 90 minute interactive workshop you will learn how to start the new year off right, strengthening your personal boundaries in your every day life for a happier, healthier you! Come connect with others and learn the secret to a happy, healthy life…

For registration information:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/setting-healthy-boundaries-the-secret-to-happiness-tickets-17175174409

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

I’m on a compassion mission…will you join me? Let’s open our hearts to one another and spread some compassion this holiday season! Are you with me?

Will you consider sharing this video on compassion and asking others to share too, please? Together we can help heal the world with compassion.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Get ready for the holidays! Join me Thursday, December 3, 2015, from 6:30pm- 8:00pm,  at Intuitive Psychology, PLC in Scottsdale, AZ.

Holidays are notorious for bringing difficult family dynamics to the forefront, testing our patience and our tolerance. Face the holidays ready for anything with this course on compassion…Ancient wisdom as well as current research tells us that compassion has the ability to heal our emotional wounds. Having compassion for those we love is typically not too hard. Having compassion in difficult situations and with ourselves can be a little trickier. In this 90 minute workshop learn how to successfully practice compassion even during the toughest of circumstances…

To find out more and register:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/be-a-compassion-ninja-tickets-…

Don’t delay…Register closes November 30th…

I’d love to see you there!

Be happy and well
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

Story Sari TedX
I had the honor of being included in TedX Fountain Hills this week, along with 19 other inspirational and amazing speakers. I will tell you, it was a tremendous experience. I am not given to sharing personal stories on this blog, but inspired by the Ted way of doing things, I feel compelled to share a bit of my story about this incredible learning experience with you…

The topic of the TedX Fountain Hills conference was Community. I immediately knew, upon hearing this, that I wanted to talk about creating compassionate communities. As I mentioned in my talk, our communities have grown so exponentially, that we are on information overload and our ability to be compassionate is eroding in response. Our brains can only handle so much before we start to short-circuit with the enormous flow of information, often negative, that is coming at us. I wanted to help break that down…help make things seem manageable for us again. I focused on how we can be compassionate in our every day lives, just by taking charge of saying kind words and thinking kind thoughts every day. By remembering not to take things too personally. By honoring the differences in ourselves and others. By knowing that we are the stories we tell our selves, and that we can change our stories. By realizing that our compassion ignites compassion in others. By remembering that compassion is a choice that is always available to us.

I had a blast putting the talk together. I wrote and I wrote…and then I wrote some more. Unfortunately, then I remembered that I had an 18 minute time constraint! So then I edited and edited…and then I edited some more! Right up until the morning of the talk, I practiced, I rehearsed, I felt in my heart what I wanted to share, and I set my intention to connect with compassion and clarity to the audience.

But that’s only part of the story I really want to share with you. I want to share with you what putting this talk together did for me… In researching, writing, and thinking about compassion, I began to notice the places in my life where I lacked compassion. It was like putting a giant spot-light on my choices. It reminded me on a daily basis that compassion is a choice. It helped me remember that when I approached a situation where I might normally get irritated, that I had the choice to respond compassionately to the person in front of me. Some days I did better at making compassionate choices than others, but almost every day since starting to write my talk I have had the heightened awareness that compassion is a choice.

..and that’s not all. Not only was I aware of my compassionate behavior towards others. I began to become aware of how compassionately, or sadly, uncompassionately I treated myself. When you are faced with the exciting task of taking on a dream, in this case it was my dream to give a Ted talk, it’s amazing how many once hidden self-sabotoging thoughts can all of a sudden rise to the surface. The good news is, when they rise to the surface, you can see them and skim them off, right?? Ha! Luckily, as a psychologist, I am used to the interesting task of both simultaneously experiencing an emotion while observing myself experience the emotion. It’s an interesting trick…but one that is really helpful for learning and growth…and also helps you keep from getting too attached to the emotion. I was really curious about what was happening to me as I was slowly being overtaken by fear. I discovered that I had this tendency to stand right in my own way with my fear and self-limiting thoughts. “What makes you think you have something new to say?” “What makes you special enough to do this?” “What if you get up there and look like a fool?” …and then I began to employ one of my most powerful coping strategies…sharing and exposing my fears to my friends. Not so they could pump me up, but so they could help me have the strength, courage and wisdom to learn how to manage and talk back to these self-defeating thoughts. Each day I worked on being aware of the fear voice inside me and talking back to it with simple compassion and encouragement. “Everybody has a worthy voice.” “This is something you love to talk and teach about.” “If you just let yourself enjoy the experience you will be fine.” “Of course this is something you can do.” I will tell you, it took an amazing amount of effort. It even helped me increase compassion for my friends, family and patients who have all become overwhelmed by the dark voice inside of them from time to time.

Why did I feel compelled to share this all with you? Because I realized, yet again, that we are all in this together. What I tell my patients every day is true. It is not until you go through the pain and the struggle and the self doubt that you can grow and learn and prosper. We don’t get to the good stuff without walking through the tough stuff first. Everybody has to do this from time to time…many times over…none of us our immune. I will tell you, when I got to the other side of it…when I walked off of that stage…I felt exhilarated. It hadn’t gone perfectly…there was a slide mess up and a little word bobble…but none of that mattered. I had gotten up there and said what I wanted to say with a smile in my heart and on my face. I was present for every moment of it. I had faced my fearful inner voice and I had triumphed. The voice inside me was excitedly shouting, “You did it!”

We are the stories we tell ourselves, my friends. What story are you telling yourself today? Sometimes you just have to let yourself acknowledge and hear and learn from the angry or scary words before you can turn them around to compassionate words for others or for yourself. Ultimately, we all need to remember…compassion is a choice that is ALWAYS available to us…and all we have to do…is remember to choose it…

Take a look and see what you think…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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When life gets busy we can forget to take care of ourselves. When that happens, the mind, body and spirit has a way of reminding us that we better pay attention…sometimes we feel stressed, empty, ill, overwhelmed or just plain exhausted. Why not make a point to take some time for yourself and brush up on strategies that will help you live the happy, healthy life you strive for. In August, learn how to find balance in your life during stressful times. In September, discover the importance of setting healthy boundaries at work and in your personal life. And coming in October… learn how to meditate with ease, with a simple course on meditation. The best part, is that it’s fun! 

Click the link below to see our most recent newsletter and check out what Intuitive Psychology has to offer in the coming months…
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If you are not already receiving our monthly newsletter and would like to sign up, just contact us at:
http://www.intuitivepsychologyplc.com/#contact

Hope to see you soon!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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There are still two more workshops left in the Power of Positivity Series. It’s not about being happy all the time, it’s about accepting what’s on your plate in the present moment and choosing how to enjoy life in the midst of all the ups and downs it bring us. Come join me at the Scottsdale offices of Intuitive Psychology, PLC and learn how to use your powerful mind to lead you forward on your personal path…

Intuition:
Listening to your own answers
Thursday, April 30, 2015
6:30pm – 8:00pm

Sometimes we don’t know where to turn when we need solutions to problems – we look to friends, family and professionals, but forget to ask the person who knows us best. Ourselves. This workshop will show you how to navigate through the mysteries of using your intuition to find your own answers. Come discover effective techniques and practical skills for learning to listen more clearly to your intuition.
Sign up for this workshop securely:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/intuition-listening-to-your-own-answers-tickets-11386275657

Setting Your Intention
…fulfilling your goals
Thursday, May 28, 2015
6:30pm – 8:00pm

Intentions help us create purposeful maps to guide us in the direction we would like to go on our life path. They are the stepping stones of our lives. Without them we are in danger of becoming lost. In this 90 minute workshop we will discuss strategies for purposefully identifying and following our intentions so that we may successfully reach our goals.
Sign up for this workshop securely:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/setting-your-intention-fulfilling-your-goals-tickets-15636878324

Space is limited to allow for interactive discussion and a comfortable learning environment.
Workshops are $45 per person via telephone and online registration, prepaid by credit card (discounts for students and for accompanying family members and significant others living in the same household are available). All sales are final. Please call (480) 261-4061 to reserve your spot.

I hope you can join me!
Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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NAVIGATE THE FITNESS MAZE…

We all know that taking care of our bodies and being physically active is good for us. The problem is that our lives get in the way and we can’t get ourselves to do what we know we need to do. Well, help is here. Join compassionate experts as they share useable, practical, and real-world ways to personalize a wellness and fitness plan that works for you! The start of a new year is a great time to think about your health and well-being. Come join me and certified health coach, Dr. Steve Feyrer-Melk, on January 29th. We’ll be teaching fun tips, simple tricks, and important facts to make your health and wellness a top priority in your life. We only have one body. Join us to see how the journey of optimal health is within your grasp.

Thursday, January 29th from 6:30-8:00pm
Intuitive Psychology, PLC
Scottsdale, AZ

To find and more and register:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/your-pathway-to-health-tickets-12451243003

Sometimes we may find ourselves agreeing to do things that we really do not want to do, taking on problems that are not ours, or tolerating rude behavior because we would rather avoid conflict than stand up for ourselves. Does that sound like you? Having clear boundaries, those personal lines that mark the things for which we are responsible, is crucial to a healthy, balanced life. Problems tend to arise when we forget when to say yes, and how to say no. Come join me for this 90 minute workshop to learn and discuss how to strengthen your personal boundaries for a happier, healthier you!

To find out more or register:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/learning-to-set-healthy-boundariesthe-secret-to-happiness-tickets-13998029483

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To find out more or register:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/learning-to-set-healthy-boundariesthe-secret-to-happiness-tickets-13998029483

Hope you can join me!

Let your intuition be your guide,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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I had a wonderful time on Friday, with my friend Bob Roth, on his radio show, “Health Futures: Taking Stock in You.” We talked about aging,  self-care, and coping with big transitions in life. If you missed it and would like to hear it, you can listen to the pod cast at:  http://media.kfnn.com/content/healthfutures/health-futures_1_010814.mp3. I’d love your feedback! His show is every Friday at noon on KFNN 1510AM/99.3FM, and it’s wonderful! It was an absolute pleasure to be on air with him.

 

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

radio2I hope you will tune in this Friday, August 1st at 12noon MST when I talk about Choice and Aging on my friend Bob Roth’s radio show “Health Futures: Taking Stock in You!” on KFNN 1510AM/99.3 FM or stream it live that day at:
http://streamdb4web.securenetsystems.net/v5/KFNN

Bob has a wonderful way of bringing out the best in people. This should be a good listen!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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