Category: energy

????????????????Indulge me for a moment? Imagine that inside me there is a bright light shining outward. It glows from deep within me. Imagine now that you have a similar light inside you. This light connects to mine and glows along with mine, but is always separate from mine, no matter how beautifully it may glow with yours. While we are connected by the glow of our light, we are also separated by the uniqueness of our own light that comes from within each us.

In order for us to function effectively in our world, we need to allow ourselves to have a concept of both connectedness and uniqueness. When we feel connected to one another we feel a sense of belonging, friendship and love. When we recognize our uniqueness we feel strength, personal power and self-love. Recognizing our boundaries, knowing what I am responsible for and what you are responsible for, is crucial for living a happy, healthy life. When we take responsibility for things that are not ours to control, we typically feel ineffective, while others may feel resentful and ultimately rejecting of us. When we let others take take control of things we are responsible for, we may feel powerless and resentful. The trick of course, is paying attention to how you feel. When anger and resentment begin to take over, this is a sign that you have lost touch with your boundaries and have allowed them to be breeched; you have either given away too much, or allowed yourself to take on what is not yours.

Allowing yourself to identify what your boundaries are…what you’re OK saying “yes” to, and what you cannot allow to occur in your life, is a step towards sitting comfortably in your world, letting your light shine brightly in compliment with others. However, losing touch with your boundaries, saying “yes” to all and “no” to none, dims your light, making you feel less than you actually you are.

Honoring yourself by nurturing and protecting that light within you, in full awareness of its uniqueness and its ability to beautifully connect you with others, puts you on a path towards happiness that you can follow for the rest of you life.

Food for thought, anyhow?

Be happy  and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.


stepping-into-waterSitting late at night at the computer staring at the screen and waiting for the light to shine into your heart. Waiting. Waiting. Still waiting. Wondering what might spur you on. Eager for that little flash of brilliance to enter your brain and light it up like one of those old arcade pinball machines. Ding, Ding, Whiz, Bang, Beep…free ball earned! Yay! Trying so hard to catch a glimpse of inspiration, or at least creative insight. And then you stop. You open up. You look away from the screen and you let your fingers move on their own. You disengage your brain and allow your mind and your heart to plug in. Your fingers just writing down the words as they come to you without thought. In the present moment with each word that comes to life. Not quite sure where the next word is coming from, but just along for the ride. Seeing where it takes you. Your fingers moving faster and faster as you write. The words flowing from somewhere deep inside…or do they? Maybe coming from somewhere deep outside, connecting to the deep inside you?  Your brain transformed into a beautiful receiver of the intuitive flow. Not questioning for now, just allowing the whole process to move forward. Not controlling. Not directing. Just observing in amusement what comes next. Smiling at the marvel which is your mind in communication with something beyond yourself. Our creativity in action. Letting go of judgments for the moment. Just allowing it all to flow for right now. Getting out of your own way. Enjoying the creative process, alive and dancing with a life of its own. Wanting to write forever. Lost in the moment. Happy to be alive with the beautiful life force and energy that allows you to create. Remembering. There is no perfect inspiration needed…just the flow of the infinite reservoir of life. Waiting for you to step into it, unafraid, happy for the ride, wherever your heart decides to take you. It’s always there waiting for you to tap into it. Available to all who will recognize that is there and who will open up to it. A whole world available to us if we simply let go and surrender to flow of it all. Will you?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

ancestor-sleep“Ok, maybe your grandparents probably slept like you. And your great, great-grandparents. But once you go back before the 1800s, sleep starts to look a lot different. Your ancestors slept in a way that modern sleepers would find bizarre – they slept twice. And so can you.”
-Excerpted from SlumberWise:

A wise man sent me this link…what do you think? Would this work for you?

Come join me on Thursday, October 10th at 7pm at the offices of Intuitive Psychology, PLC in Scottsdale to learn how to improve your sleep and increase your energy?

Call 480-261-4061 to register and find out more.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.



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Screen shot 2013-05-01 at 3.40.57 PMTime to Rethink, Reinvent, Recharge? Then the latest issue of AZ-Lifestyle magazine is for you! Check out my newest Mindset column “A New You? Making Your Dreams Real” and get going on following your heart’s desire!

A New You? Making Your Dreams Real

As the seasons progress, Spring moving ever closer to Summer, the earth warming and teeming with new life and growth, our heads and hearts fill with thoughts of new beginnings. We dream of something new for ourselves…new job, new hobby, new vision, new adventure. We dream of being reinvigorated. We dream of replenishing our souls. But how?

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. author of “Just One Thing” asks us to be curious. Ask yourself,  “What are the dreams that matter most to me?” You know the answer to this question. This is where your intuition comes into play. The answer that comes will be from your heart. Try to remain open to the answer, rather than allowing yourself to be dismissive, critical and cynical of what you hear. It is our own judgments and our attempts to be purely logical and rational that blocks our dreams. Dreams are not logical, they are passion filled. That’s not to say that further down the line of turning dreams into reality that logic won’t enter the picture. For now, don’t be scared of letting your heart speak its language of emotion and excitement as the dream begins its journey.

The next step is to write down the answers to the question, speak them to people you care about, or maybe even make or collage pictures of them; whatever manner of expression suits you. Let the answers fill your thoughts, your conversations, your dreams, your life. The important part is turning the internal into external — a form of giving birth to these dreams, if you will.

So how do we move from the infancy of our dreams into maturation, from contemplation to reality? By doing, of course. Think about the steps you need to take to get where you want to go. Write them down. Envision the outcome of completing each of these steps. Make them a priority in your heart; that’s where they come from after all. Start today. Start as soon as you’re done reading this article. Make a commitment to yourself to spend time each day with this dream. Keep track of your progress. The fastest way to get momentum is to start moving forward, knowing that everything that you do today will bring you towards your goals of tomorrow. So get moving now.

The important part is to allow yourself to enjoy each small step in the process, rather then making the mistake of living for the future. We simply can not experience the future in the present. Right now is the only reality we have. So let yourself enjoy it fully. Notice how it feels right now to move one step closer to your dream. As you move forward, the reality of this dream may grow and change. That’s okay, as long as you keep nurturing the dream with your heart, it will transform as it needs to, allowing you to simply enjoy the process of watching it unfold.

Possibly the most essential piece of turning your dreams of change into reality is the belief that you can accomplish this task. I’m talking about having faith in yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. Think back to other tasks or dreams that you have accomplished in your life. Noticing the feelings that come over you as you recall these achievements, remind yourself that you are fully capable of achieving what you want. Tell yourself, “I can really do this. I can have what I desire.” Smile at the thought of it. Instead of focusing on obstacles, focus on possibilities. Focus on the areas in which you have control; these are the areas where you can exert influence. The mistake that many of us make is to focus on wishing we could control things that we cannot. That, of course, is a waste of time and energy. Accepting things as they are and focusing on what we can take care of in the present is the direct pathway to getting what we want.

This may take some work. But if you make a point of caring for and nurturing yourself along the way, you will no doubt make it. This means being kind to yourself. How can you fulfill your dreams if you aren’t taking care of the dreamer? Work hard, but also rest, relax, breathe, give and receive love, say encouraging words to yourself, smile at the vision of the new you that you are creating…

So what are you waiting for? The time for a new reinvigorated you is NOW.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

P.S. Interested in learning more about how to gracefully embrace change in your life? I’ll be giving a free webinar on “Embracing Change” on  Tuesday, June 11th at noon EST. Click this link for more details: .  You need not be a Smith alumnae to attend. Anyone interested in attending is welcome to join in on this free webinar.


Spring has sprung! Are you ready for the new beginnings it’s offering us? Maybe this year make a point of starting something new that you’ve been waiting and wanting to do, but just haven’t gotten around to yet?

The earth is opening up in all her glory to us. Spring is quite literally the season of creativity; so don’t miss out on the gift of inspiration being offered to you. Look around you at the new leaves, flowers, baby birds. Immerse yourself in the sights, scents, and sounds of all the new activity around you. Allow the newness to motivate you, moving you out of your winter inertia and into a something wonderful. It can be as small or as large as you’d like: a new recipe, a new art project, a new business idea, a new path to work. It’s all up to you. Just make it something new and new different.

  • Make a point of spending a few moments outside each day.
  • Be fully present and aware of the new energy that surrounds you.
  • Breathe it all in. Allow yourself to feel connected to and part of it all with each breath.
  • Ask yourself,”what path shall I take now?” Be open to the answer. It may just surprise you.
  • Let the ideas grow and develop each day as you take a little time for you and your creative thoughts.

What do you think? It’s surprising what you can accomplish when you allow yourself to take the time; even just for a few moments. Ready to give it a try?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

imagesIs stress and frustration getting the best of you? Find out about the remarkably important role of compassion and gratitude in your overall well-being during the next Thoughtful Thursdays workshop, Thursday, February 28th from 12:00 pm to 1:15 pm. Come learn about your brain and all the wonderful things it can do for you in this dynamic 75 minute workshop. Each workshop uncovers the biology behind the psychology, and gives you practical tools to change your mind and your brain to be a happier and healthier you. We’ll discuss new neuroscientific discoveries simply and practically, in ways that can help you change the way you view the world. Call 480-261-4061 to register.

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