Category: Emotional Mastery

Sometimes we may find ourselves agreeing to do things that we really do not want to do, taking on problems that are not ours, or tolerating rude behavior because we would rather avoid conflict than stand up for ourselves. Does that sound like you? Having clear boundaries, those personal lines that mark the things for which we are responsible, is crucial to a healthy, balanced life. Problems tend to arise when we forget when to say yes, and how to say no. Come join me for this 90 minute workshop to learn and discuss how to strengthen your personal boundaries for a happier, healthier you!

To find out more or register:

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Hope you can join me!

Let your intuition be your guide,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.


Look what just came out in the 10/27 issue of First for Women. Do you trust your gut enough? First for Women magazine asked for my thoughts on listening to your intuition and here’s what I told them…

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What do you think?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer


How much of your day to you spend in a distracted state of mind? For many of us, the answer is much of the time. In our fast paced world our attention is often drawn from task to task, event to event, conversation to conversation, stopping only for brief periods of rest…and even those times of respite are becoming briefer and briefer for many of us.

Try this out for a quick moment… Set a timer for 3 minutes. Close your eyes and allow yourself to focus on your breath. Just simply observe and be aware of the natural steady rhythm of your breath for 3 minutes. If your mind wanders, just gently note that, and then bring it back to the breath. Got your timer set? Go…

How’d it go? How often did your mind wander from your breath? How quickly were you able to note it and bring it back? Were you able to catch your mind wandering or did the timer go off with you being lost in thought? Everyone will have their mind wander at some or many points during the exercise. For many of us, our minds will wander away from the breath quickly, often, and sometimes completely.

Now I have a challenge for you…in the popular time of challenges…I challenge you to take time to be still once a day. Just once a day, is all I am asking you to commit. Schedule purposeful time in your day to stop, be quiet, clear your mind and just breathe. You can take as short as five minutes or as long as an hour to be still in whatever way works for you…sit outside and look at the clouds and the trees, sit in your favorite chair and focus to your breath, lounge on your couch and listen to a quiet piece of music, turn your desk chair away from your computer and listen to a meditation app, go for a walk and feel a part of nature…however you want to do it is just fine…just do it. Take time out of your day for whatever amount of time works for you to purposefully pull yourself out of the distracting constant flow of information and be still. Are you willing to give it a try… if only for 5 minutes a day to start?

If your mind wanders at first, that’s fine. No need to be discouraged by that. That’s the normal process of training you mind to be quiet and still. It’s so used to being distracted. When you catch your mind wandering, instead of judging and scolding yourself for it, perhaps try smiling at yourself for being aware of your wandering mind and then gently bring it back to your breath. Paying attention to all of your senses is another nice trick to help keep you off of your thoughts and in the present moment. Sense your body on the chair, feel the air on your skin, hear the noises around you, notice the feeling of the breath coming in through your nose and out of your mouth, feel your clothes on your skin. Let your thoughts simply come and go. Observe them passing through your mind, without following them. Put them on a cloud or a leaf and let them float away. If they return, let them float away again. Most importantly do it all without judgment of yourself. Give yourself credit for taking the time to practice…and practice is just what this is. Every new skill takes time and practice to develop mastery. This is no different. Make sure that you are patient and kind with yourself as you learn this new skill. Maybe even allow yourself to be pleased that you are purposely taking the time to do this for you.

Observe what happens after a day, a week, a month, three months of practice. Observe the changes in your level of peace of mind, your ability to be less reactive, your ability to put your mind where you want it to go. If you commit to this daily change, you will be pleasantly surprised. Your mind will change. Your sense of inner peace will increase. Your ability to focus your attention will improve. You will feel more creative. Your health will benefit…all because you took time out each day to quiet your mind and be still.

There’s only one way to find out if what I am saying is true. Will you take the Stillness Challenge?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.


The Magic of Mindfulness, Thursday, September 18th at 6:30-8pm, Intuitive Psychology, PLC, Scottsdale, AZ:


Time to be happy? Learn the tricks you need to train your brain to face even the most difficult situations with a smile in your heart…Thursday, May 20th from 6:30-8pm at Intuitive Psychology, PLC. Come join the conversation and learn what your powerful mind can do for you!
Register now at:
Or call us to register at:  (480) 261-4061.


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Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Our bodies and minds are in a delicate, yet powerful dance together. Research shows us that stress plays an enormous part in our physical and mental health and well being. When stress overwhelms us, it places our health in jeopardy. Come learn with me, as I welcome well-respected cardiologist, Dr. Anne Marie Feyrer-Melk to join me in discussing how to help keep your heart happy and healthy in the midst of a busy, stressful life. This is an exciting opportunity to learn from two perspectives, the medical and the psychological, on how to maintain a healthy mind-body-spirit balance.

“Happy Hearts”
Tuesday, October 29th
Intuitive Psychology, PLC
Scottsdale, AZ 85250

Registration is $50 per person, with accompanying family member or significant other at a discount. Reservation is required as space is limited.

ANNE MARIE FEYRER-MELK, M.D. is an accomplished and innovative Cardiologist pioneering a whole body approach to caring for the heart. She is Director of Heart of Arizona Optimal Cardiac Care in Scottsdale, AZ

SARI ROTH-ROEMER, PH.D. is a leading Medical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience teaching people how to trust their intuition and find balance in their lives. She is Director of Intuitive Psychology, PLC in Scottsdale, AZ.

For registration details call 480-261-4061 or go to Space is limited to allow for an intimate setting of learning and discussion.

I hope you can join us!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

BeHereNowThere’s so much going on in our busy lives these days. We run from one thing to the next. We complain to our friends and family “Oh, I’m so busy!” …and then we continue on the same path. We struggle to finish one task so we can move on to the next. We look ahead and see an endless line of upcoming tasks. We are tired, we are exhausted, we are worn out…and yet, we keep going? Maybe with less and less enthusiasm and energy, but we keep trudging on in the same direction…

Stop. Now. For a moment.

Just stop and breathe. Really, really breath. Take a deep, deep breath in, hold it for a moment and then exhale it completely. Now, do it again. And again. And once again. Keep going. Focus only on this breathing without any judgment. Letting go of everything else for the moment and just let yourself focus on nothing but the natural rhythm of your breathing. As if this very breath was recalibrating your whole system. Re-tuning your heart, your soul, your body, your mind…you. Listen to the breathe. Let your mind clear. Feel your body slow and expand with each breath you take. How nice does that feel to know that you have the power to reset and recharge? To stop if only for a moment or two or three and to let yourself just breathe. Connecting with everything around you in a way that it fully present and aware of the very moment your in.

And then once you’ve cleared your mind with your breath and come into the present moment. Ask yourself, “Is this what I want to be doing right now? Am I spending my time and my energy on what I want to be doing? And if so, am I doing it how I want to be doing it? If not, what do I want to do and how can I get there?” Listen for the true answers that only you know. Ask yourself if you are paying attention to what you are doing or if you are simply on automatic going from one thing to the next, to the next, without really thinking moment by moment about what you are doing? How much more might you appreciate what you are doing if you brought your focus back onto it directly? I’m asking you to tune in. To pay attention. To be fully aware of what you are doing at the time you are doing it.  Listen to your intuition. Tune into your own answers that are available if you take the time to stop and listen. How much richer might your experience be? How much more might you get out of what you are doing? How much more might you enjoy what you are doing if you allow yourself to come out of automatic and make the choice purposefully enjoy it? There’s really only one way to find out.


For a moment.


Be present.


What do you think? Worth a try?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

phrenology headLife is full of problems…or is it full of opportunities? I suppose it’s all in your perspective. When trouble comes your way do you tend to worry about what you are going to do about it or are you curious about how it will all turn out? I will argue, as always, that the choice is yours…

There will always be problems in life…because at it’s essence, as our friend M. Scott Peck reminds us in his landmark book “The Road Less Traveled“, life is difficult. Once we recognize that this is how life is, we are in a much better position to cope, than if we live in a delusion that life is supposed to be easy. Now, that doesn’t mean that life isn’t easy from time to to time, thank goodness, but there is work involved. The question that remains, however, is “difficult” essentially good or is it bad? Perhaps, my friends, it is neither; perhaps it just is. Perhaps it’s how you deal with the difficulty that matters.

As I noted earlier, we can decide to worry about the rough spots and be ruled by our fears, or we can look at it as an opportunity to learn something, and be ruled by our curiosity and our faith. For those of you out there who are parents, you may know just what I mean. Your child messes up big-time and you have the misfortune, I mean opportunity, of stepping in and providing a consequence for their behavior. Now for most of us, that’s not always a pleasant experience initially. However, ask any parent, and they will tell you, once the limit has been set and the lesson has been learned, it’s an amazing growthful experience for parent and child. The first time you do it, it’s hell. After that, you may get the initial lurching gut, but you know something good will likely happen and a lesson will be learned. That’s how it goes, you know. You step up to face a difficulty straight on, and you have an opportunity to learn from it. You step up to it with fear and uncertainty, it’s likely going to bite you with a large dose of anxiety, stopping you in tracks and preventing you from moving forward. You don’t have to be a parent to know this is true, you just have to be a human who has lived life and learned from it.

So, I ask you again, when faced with a difficulty what choice will you make? Will you stay stuck in worry and fear or will you embrace it as a normal part of life and be curious about what lesson will be learned this time?

As always, the choice is yours…

May you be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

187776_499965006732668_513727004_nEveryone makes mistakes, but it can be hard to forgive when we’re carrying around a heavy load of resentment and blame.  Unfortunately, when we hang onto old hurts we only end up hurting ourselves in the end.  In this 90 minute workshop, learn how to use mindfulness and intuition to let go of these blocks that keep us from moving ahead in our lives, and stop us from being happier, healthier and well-balanced.

The Thoughtful Thursday workshop series takes place on the fourth Thursday of every month, offering a variety of thought-provoking psychological and wellness topics. Each workshop in this series uncovers the biology behind the psychology, and gives you practical tools to use your mind to change your brain to be a happier and healthier you. Coming next month: Adapting to Change on July 18th (the 3rd Thursday, for next month only).

Thoughtful Thursdays:

Forgiving. Letting Go. Moving Forward

Thursday, June 27th, 2013


5635 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 170
Scottsdale, AZ 85250

Call 480-261-4061 to register now. Pre-registration required.
$40 registration (companion $25). 

Come learn and have some fun while you’re at it. It’s time to take some well deserved time for yourself, isn’t it?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Wise and true words from Rabbi David Wolpe via FaceBook. I wanted to share them with you…

“We use negative emotions as explanations but what of positive ones? “I hit because I was hurt.” “I lashed out because angry.” Less often, “I gave because I was grateful.” “I helped because I was joyous.” Use your impulses to goodness as spurs to action.”

When we lead by example, others are likely to follow suit…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

IMG00223-20100706-1433…summer is here. The time of year equated with letting go and enjoying life. For many of us, memories of childhood days spent in joyfulness. Exhilarated by the freedom of life without homework and tests. Excited by time spent without boundaries. Playing whole-heartedly with friends. Losing ourselves in pure satisfaction with the moment. Day after day after day after day all blending together in a sunshine haze of happiness.

How do we honor this once beloved time of year for ourselves now? Can we allow ourselves to really stop for a moment and take a break? Take time to pause in our regular routine. Take time out to stop and be grateful for all that we have. Take time to connect with others. Take time to have an adventure and seek out new experiences. Take time to sit back, relax, and just breathe in the enjoyment of the present moment. Take time to put a smile on our faces and allow ourselves the pleasure of happiness…

Are you up to the challenge…the challenge of taking time for summer happiness and freedom…if only for a moment? While this could mean an exotic vacation, it really doesn’t have to be that. It doesn’t even have to cost any money. All it will cost is the intention of taking the time to take care of you by purposely pausing to enjoying the moment you’re in. You certainly deserve that, right? Maybe you’ll start swimming each day, or sit down and drink a glass of lemonade with someone you love, or catch up on an old movie, or read that book you haven’t had time for, or even write that book you’ve been meaning to write. Whatever you decide to do will be just fine, as long as you decided to take the time to pause and enjoy your life. So, close your eyes now, breathe deeply and ask yourself in this moment, “how am I going to take a break this summer?” Now listen for the answer. Now decide how you’re going to make it happen. Will you? As always, the choice is truly yours.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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