Archive for February, 2014

????????????????Indulge me for a moment? Imagine that inside me there is a bright light shining outward. It glows from deep within me. Imagine now that you have a similar light inside you. This light connects to mine and glows along with mine, but is always separate from mine, no matter how beautifully it may glow with yours. While we are connected by the glow of our light, we are also separated by the uniqueness of our own light that comes from within each us.

In order for us to function effectively in our world, we need to allow ourselves to have a concept of both connectedness and uniqueness. When we feel connected to one another we feel a sense of belonging, friendship and love. When we recognize our uniqueness we feel strength, personal power and self-love. Recognizing our boundaries, knowing what I am responsible for and what you are responsible for, is crucial for living a happy, healthy life. When we take responsibility for things that are not ours to control, we typically feel ineffective, while others may feel resentful and ultimately rejecting of us. When we let others take take control of things we are responsible for, we may feel powerless and resentful. The trick of course, is paying attention to how you feel. When anger and resentment begin to take over, this is a sign that you have lost touch with your boundaries and have allowed them to be breeched; you have either given away too much, or allowed yourself to take on what is not yours.

Allowing yourself to identify what your boundaries are…what you’re OK saying “yes” to, and what you cannot allow to occur in your life, is a step towards sitting comfortably in your world, letting your light shine brightly in compliment with others. However, losing touch with your boundaries, saying “yes” to all and “no” to none, dims your light, making you feel less than you actually you are.

Honoring yourself by nurturing and protecting that light within you, in full awareness of its uniqueness and its ability to beautifully connect you with others, puts you on a path towards happiness that you can follow for the rest of you life.

Food for thought, anyhow?

Be happy  and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.


IPPLC Boundaries 02-25-2014 flyer srr1 copy 2Sometimes we may find ourselves agreeing to do things that we really do not want to do, taking on problems that are not ours, or tolerating rude behavior because we would rather avoid conflict than stand up for ourselves. Having clear boundaries, those personal lines that mark the things for which we are responsible, is crucial to a healthy, balanced life. Problems tend to arise when we forget when to say yes, and how to say no. In this 90 minute workshop we will discuss how to strengthen your personal boundaries for a happier, healthier you!

Learning to Set Healthy Boundaries
The secret to happiness…
Thursday, February 27th, 2014
6:30 – 8:00 pm
Intuitive Psychology, PLC
Scottsdale, AZ

Join the conversation and learn what your powerful mind can do for your health and happiness.

Advanced reservations are required.

Workshop cost is $40 per person, payable by any major credit card, with a discount for students, as well as accompanying family members and significant others.

Call 480-261-4061 to register now.

Hope you can join me!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

stepping-into-waterSitting late at night at the computer staring at the screen and waiting for the light to shine into your heart. Waiting. Waiting. Still waiting. Wondering what might spur you on. Eager for that little flash of brilliance to enter your brain and light it up like one of those old arcade pinball machines. Ding, Ding, Whiz, Bang, Beep…free ball earned! Yay! Trying so hard to catch a glimpse of inspiration, or at least creative insight. And then you stop. You open up. You look away from the screen and you let your fingers move on their own. You disengage your brain and allow your mind and your heart to plug in. Your fingers just writing down the words as they come to you without thought. In the present moment with each word that comes to life. Not quite sure where the next word is coming from, but just along for the ride. Seeing where it takes you. Your fingers moving faster and faster as you write. The words flowing from somewhere deep inside…or do they? Maybe coming from somewhere deep outside, connecting to the deep inside you?  Your brain transformed into a beautiful receiver of the intuitive flow. Not questioning for now, just allowing the whole process to move forward. Not controlling. Not directing. Just observing in amusement what comes next. Smiling at the marvel which is your mind in communication with something beyond yourself. Our creativity in action. Letting go of judgments for the moment. Just allowing it all to flow for right now. Getting out of your own way. Enjoying the creative process, alive and dancing with a life of its own. Wanting to write forever. Lost in the moment. Happy to be alive with the beautiful life force and energy that allows you to create. Remembering. There is no perfect inspiration needed…just the flow of the infinite reservoir of life. Waiting for you to step into it, unafraid, happy for the ride, wherever your heart decides to take you. It’s always there waiting for you to tap into it. Available to all who will recognize that is there and who will open up to it. A whole world available to us if we simply let go and surrender to flow of it all. Will you?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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