Archive for November, 2013



May we all be filled with loving kindness,
May we all be well,
May we all be peaceful and at ease,
May we all be happy…
Many blessings to you all on this day of thanks and gratitude.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.



IMG00139-20100704-1817Trying hard to relax? Maybe don’t try so hard… Consider instead that forcing yourself to relax will rarely ever work, simply because relaxation is a a letting go…a release. To force relaxation is actually the opposite of what relaxation is all about. You have to allow it, rather than demand it. Instead of struggling against stressful emotions like fear, anxiety and anger…allow them to pass through. All too often, without meaning to, we hang on tightly to our emotions with the stories we tell ourselves. Put those stress-inducing stories down and let them go. Become aware of what you are saying to yourself, allow yourself to feel what you are feeling, let it be what it is and let it pass. Be mindful of your thoughts. Let  your story move from a story of fear and upset to a story of release and triumph. From “Oh no, this is terrible! I can’t do this!” to “It’s all right. In time, I will figure this out.” Breathe deeply, as if you are breathing in and out through your heart, then between your brows, and finally through the top of your head. Gently let go of your upset with each breath. Don’t push it away forcefully. Just breathe it out as if each breath is softly sweeping away the stress from your mind and from your heart. Tell yourself you will figure it out, even if you haven’t come up with the solution just yet. Focus on the present moment and what you can control right now. Put your mind where you want it to be. Meditate, go outside, move your body, sing your favorite song, call your favorite friend, cook your favorite meal, do anything that pleasantly absorbs your attention… Honor yourself for being human, with a full set of human emotions, as well as an amazing ability to be resilient and to pass through difficulty if you just allow it. Then smile to yourself, knowing that you’ve just cleared a space for that inner voice inside you to speak your answers freely…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Your life experiences are your life experiences. They happened. Especially when they’re emotional we tend not to forget. However, forgiveness allows us to rewrite the story from passive victim to active champion in taking control of our attitude and feelings.

Everyone makes mistakes, but it can be hard to forgive when carrying around a heavy load of resentment and blame. Unfortunately, when we hang onto old hurts we only end up hurting ourselves in the end. In this 75 minute workshop, learn how to use mindfulness to let go of these blocks that keep us from moving ahead in our lives, and stop us from being happier, healthier and well-balanced.

Take this opportunity to heal from old hurts. Join the conversation and learn what your powerful mind can do for your health and happiness.

Thursday, November 21st 2013
7:00 – 8:15 pm
Intuitive Psychology, PLC
Scottsdale, AZ

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

nrm2185-i1Will you allow your life to take shape as it unfolds in front of you? Making choices as new situations, new opportunities, new obstacles arise? Or will you spend your energy making the things you want happen? Envisioning your life as it should be, striving for perfection? Trick question, isn’t it? Be honest with yourself, which did you choose?

So many of us were raised to force our way through life. If we wanted “it” we were taught to go out and get “it”, no matter what.  Pull yourself up by the boot straps and make it happen. That way worked well at one time in our very recent history. Fledgling nations like America were built on this type of determination and perseverance. It isn’t a bad thing, it just doesn’t seem to work as well as it used to anymore. Why?

Everything changes with time. At some point, a significant shift seems to have occurred. Our world sped up. We became  so busy and overloaded with stimulation and information coming at us from all directions at every moment,  that now, if we get caught up in a struggle with everything that comes our way, we will live our life in struggle…and we will suffer for it. We will get stressed, we will get unhappy, our relationships will come apart, our bodies will get sick and our culture will erode. The make-it-happen approach was for a slower paced time in our history. In this high octane world of ours, we now need to make every moment count. How do we do that? We get smarter, we become aware, we focus on the present moment where we have control over our choices, and we go with the flow. With eyes wide open we allow life to happen and we make purposeful choices about how we want to engage with it. Instead of struggling and forcing, we surf, we dance, we ride the waves, we move with the pace of our lives without resistance. Sometimes easier said than done, for sure, but with practice, the rewards are great. A life of less upset, greater ease, improved health, happy relationship, and culture that flourishes and ultimately more accomplishment. If we aren’t wasting our time on the struggle, we have more time to enjoy, connect and grow.

Practice. It will get easier and easier. Take time to meditate. Take a yoga or a tai chi class. Concentrate on the sky and the trees and the rocks as you take your morning walk. Breathe and pay attention to that simplest of life sustaining activities. When life happens to you, choose your path wisely. Think about who you want to be… and how that choice fits into the vision of who you are moving towards becoming and where you are going. I’m not saying it will be easy. Some of the choices in front of you may be hard ones. But if they are the right ones for you, they will lead you away from struggle and into growth.

Look, life is gonna come at us no matter what. Our choice is how we will engage. Will we struggle and force our way through it, or will we have the grace to sit back, observe, follow our intuition and enjoy the ride it takes us on?

What do you think?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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