Archive for June, 2013


phrenology headLife is full of problems…or is it full of opportunities? I suppose it’s all in your perspective. When trouble comes your way do you tend to worry about what you are going to do about it or are you curious about how it will all turn out? I will argue, as always, that the choice is yours…

There will always be problems in life…because at it’s essence, as our friend M. Scott Peck reminds us in his landmark book “The Road Less Traveled“, life is difficult. Once we recognize that this is how life is, we are in a much better position to cope, than if we live in a delusion that life is supposed to be easy. Now, that doesn’t mean that life isn’t easy from time to to time, thank goodness, but there is work involved. The question that remains, however, is “difficult” essentially good or is it bad? Perhaps, my friends, it is neither; perhaps it just is. Perhaps it’s how you deal with the difficulty that matters.

As I noted earlier, we can decide to worry about the rough spots and be ruled by our fears, or we can look at it as an opportunity to learn something, and be ruled by our curiosity and our faith. For those of you out there who are parents, you may know just what I mean. Your child messes up big-time and you have the misfortune, I mean opportunity, of stepping in and providing a consequence for their behavior. Now for most of us, that’s not always a pleasant experience initially. However, ask any parent, and they will tell you, once the limit has been set and the lesson has been learned, it’s an amazing growthful experience for parent and child. The first time you do it, it’s hell. After that, you may get the initial lurching gut, but you know something good will likely happen and a lesson will be learned. That’s how it goes, you know. You step up to face a difficulty straight on, and you have an opportunity to learn from it. You step up to it with fear and uncertainty, it’s likely going to bite you with a large dose of anxiety, stopping you in tracks and preventing you from moving forward. You don’t have to be a parent to know this is true, you just have to be a human who has lived life and learned from it.

So, I ask you again, when faced with a difficulty what choice will you make? Will you stay stuck in worry and fear or will you embrace it as a normal part of life and be curious about what lesson will be learned this time?

As always, the choice is yours…

May you be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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May you be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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The Thoughtful Thursday workshop series takes place on the fourth Thursday of every month, offering a variety of thought-provoking psychological and wellness topics. Each workshop in this series uncovers the biology behind the psychology, and gives you practical tools to use your mind to change your brain to be a happier and healthier you. Coming next month: Adapting to Change on July 18th (the 3rd Thursday, for next month only).

Thoughtful Thursdays:

Forgiving. Letting Go. Moving Forward

Thursday, June 27th, 2013

12:00pm-1:15pm

5635 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 170
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
480-261-4061
http://www.intuitivepsychologyplc.com

Call 480-261-4061 to register now. Pre-registration required.
$40 registration (companion $25). 

Come learn and have some fun while you’re at it. It’s time to take some well deserved time for yourself, isn’t it?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Screen Shot 2013-06-09 at 9.12.59 PMTime to take a break?
Then check out the latest Mindset Column in AZ-Lifestyle.com:
http://az-lifestyle.com/2013/6/613.html#p=58

Time to Take a Break?
…it may just be good for you

When was the last time you stopped and did something just for you?  Yesterday? Last week? Good for you! Last month? Last season? Last year? Uh-Oh! I’m here to tell you that taking a break just for you is NOT a luxury in life, it is a necessity. You don’t have to fly to Bora-Bora (although that would be a lovely gift to yourself), but you do need to stop, breathe and focus on meeting your own needs on a regular basis. If you don’t you may just end up paying a price.

We are very busy people. It’s true. “I don’t have time to exercise. I don’t have time to sit and meditate. I wish I did.” Have those thoughts ever come to your mind? You aren’t alone. So many of us wish we could hit the pause button on the ever-moving treadmill of life and relax for a while. Guess what? You can. That “pause button” is in your mind. If you make the choice to push it, to make it a priority, you will reap the rewards. The problem is convincing yourself that you’re allowed to, that you have time for it.

When you were a kid, what were you taught about taking time off to play with a friend or go on vacation with the family? What were you taught about taking time for yourself to do something creative or read a book? Was it encouraged or were you taught that those things were less important than chores and “real” work? The things we learn early in life are lessons that stay with us unless they are brought out into the light of day and examined for what they are…childhood lessons. What’s good for you when you’re ten years old and under the direction of your parents is not necessarily what is still good for you as a capable adult. Some of it may be, but some of it may actually now be blocking you from moving forward. Obviously most of us know this intellectually, but are you fully aware of the automatic recordings that are playing in your head “I don’t have time for that”,” “I should be spending my time on something worth while,” “It’s more important to take care of other’s first.” Without paying close attention to what you’re saying to yourself when faced with choices to take care of yourself, you’ll miss out on a valuable opportunity to update these childhood scripts to better serve the adult you.

By now you’re beginning to see the trick of it, of course…what you say to yourself about taking time off for yourself is what makes the difference. As always, it’s all in your perspective.  If you tell yourself it’s not OK to do something, then it’s not OK and you won’t do it. Time to start taking creative license and rewriting those childhood scripts that have been stopping you without you even knowing it.  Instead of “I don’t have time…” you can redirect yourself to “I’m looking forward to how good it will feel after I spend 20 minutes doing a yoga DVD.”  or “If I take time to take care of me, I am really taking care of those I love, because it keeps me healthy and well.”

An important piece of this, of course, is finding balance. We’ve all heard the “All work, no play, makes Jack a dull boy” platitude. But we also know that all play, no work isn’t the solution either. I’m talking about planning opportunities to slow down, relax and enjoy…not necessarily in equal amounts of time, but doing it intentionally and on a regular basis. What happens if you schedule time to meditate or read for 20 minutes before bed, walk 30 minutes in the morning, or practice piano or guitar for 20 minutes in the evening? What happens if you treat yourself to a massage or plan a weekend getaway? Your heart and your mind will sing , your body will stay healthy and well, and you’ll perform better in all areas of your life…that’s what will happen! I mean it, when you stop allowing the soul to express itself and stop the body from moving regularly, you shut down parts of yourself, inhibit your personal growth and put your health and well-being at risk. Yuck! What wants that?

So now’s the time. Are you up for it? Think of what you’d like to spend a little time doing to make yourself feel good, smile at the thought of it, give yourself the thumbs up, and GO DO IT! Don’t forget to breathe and enjoy while you’re at it!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

 

bubble colorFree Webinar on Embracing Change
Tuesday, June 11th, noon-1pm Eastern Standard Time

If you’re not in Arizona and can’t make it to my workshops, you may want to attend my online webinar on the intuitive approach to coping with change. You can catch this free webinar I’m doing for my alma mater, Smith College  online on Tuesday, June 11th at 12pm EST.

Change is a normal part of life, yet we have a tendency to let it throw us off balance. Whether you look forward to it or fear it, this workshop will teach you how to accept and thrive in the midst of change. It’s easier than you may think. Click this link for more details on how to register:  http://alumnae.smith.edu/cms/?career=smith-women-connect-career-webinars .  You don’t need to be a Smith alumnae to attend. Anyone interested in attending is welcome to join in on this free webinar.

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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Stress Management Workshops

Next Workshop: “The Power of Choice”  on Tuesday, June 11th

6:30-7:45pm, at Intuitive Psychology, PLC in Scottsdale, AZ
$40 prepaid. (Accompanying Significant Others or Family Members only $25)

From changing your diet to changing your life, it is important to use your intuition to make the most helpful choices for yourself– but that can sometimes seem easier said than done! Choice can be stressful. But, as a daily part of our lives, it is the only tool we have that enables us to go from who we are today, to what we want to be tomorrow. Come learn the skills you need to help you make the best choices for you.

Join us for this monthly Stress Management series, every 2nd Tuesday of the month.
Coming next: July 9, “Getting the Most Out of Your Communication.”


Call 480-261-4061 for registrations details.
Space is limited to allow for an intimate setting of learning and discussion.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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