Archive for April, 2013


You’ve heard about mindfulness and want to learn more…then this workshop for you! Come take your lunch hour to join us on this dynamic adventure into mindfulness, with a twist of intuition. In this workshop you will learn how to enhance your awareness and make purposeful choices to shape your life in the direction you’d like to go.  The Thoughtful Thursday workshop series takes place on the 4th Thursday of every month, offering a variety of thought-provoking psychological and wellness topics. Each workshop in this series uncovers the biology behind the psychology, and gives you practical tools to change your mind and your brain to be a happier and healthier you.

Thoughtful Thursdays:

Mindfulness Explained

Thursday, April 25, 2013


5635 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 170
Scottsdale, AZ 85250

Call 480-261-4061 to register now. Pre-registration required.
$50 registration (companion $25). Save 10% if you mention this blog post!

Come learn and have some fun while you’re at it. It’s time to take some well deserved time for yourself, isn’t it?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.


You know, sometimes it just feels good to be silly. Enjoy the smile and the giggle…it’s good for your health after all.

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

Screen shot 2013-04-02 at 1.20.18 PMHave you been exercising your compassionate nature?

Check out my latest article on the importance of fostering compassion in our lives in the new issue of, Pages 61-63:

The Beauty of Compassion

Human beings are social creatures by nature. We were designed to live cooperatively and to assist one another in the survival of our species. But in that very design of species survival we were also given an alarm system to warn us of potential danger. So we get anxious, we get scared, or we get angry in response to any type of perceived threat.  Back in cave people days, when threats happened only on occasion, that worked pretty well; fast forward to the modern digital age, when we see “threats” to our routine on not only a daily basis, but sometimes on multiple occasions throughout our day. A simple faceless text or email can send us into an orbit of upset. Relationships are impacted. Our ability to live cooperatively and compassionately has been compromised.

Think now about the last time you got upset with someone, whether from a faceless text or phone call, or a face-to-face interaction. How quickly did that feeling arise? How did it feel in your body? Did you hold on to the upset for a while or were you able to let it go fairly quickly? Many of us seem to have a tendency to hold onto our upset. Sometimes we even nurture it: “I can’t believe that person acted that way,” “What is wrong with them?” We stay stuck in our perception of what happened, justify our upset, and even feel deserving of it. But when we do that, we stay stuck in our upset too. Do we deserve that?

Compassion involves being able to step out of your own perspective and become aware that other perspectives exist. You don’t have to agree with the other perspective, but rather acknowledge that it’s there and that it feels valid to the other person, just as your own perspective feels valid to you. Compassion is the ability to understand the emotional state of another person or oneself, which is akin to empathy with the added element of having a desire to alleviate or reduce the suffering of another. Compassion asks that you step out of your viewpoint and recognize that another viewpoint exists alongside yours.

So, how does this work? You are angry at someone and I am suggesting that you internally empathize with them? I am. The minute you are able to empathize and have compassion, your anger will diminish and you will feel better. More than that, you set a course for healing the emotional wound. What effect will holding on to anger have? It will keep you in your anger and upset. But there’s more… Recent research on compassion shows significantly positive health benefits: people who practice daily compassion meditation are found to have brain changes associated with improved stress response, improved immune function, improved ability to receive support from others, improved mood, reduced anxiety, improved ability to recognize other’s emotion and improved overall sense of well-being and life satisfaction. Wow!

Compassion isn’t just for others though. How kind are you to yourself these days? Research shows that this is different than self-esteem, or holding yourself in high positive regard. High self-esteem actually has its down sides. It can create narcissism, a better-than attitude, and can create interpersonal distance rather than connectedness. Self-compassion, on the other hand, allows for self-kindness rather than self-judgment; allows for being an imperfect human in kinship and connection with other imperfect humans; and allows for an appreciation of where you are in the present moment rather than over-personalizing situations. In fact, studies on self-compassion show that self-compassion is associated with more stable feelings of self- worth over time, less social comparison which often leads to shame, less self-consciousness, and reduced anger. Starting to sound pretty good isn’t it?

So, how do you do it? How do you get from anger to compassion in heated situations with yourself or others? You meditate on compassion daily. Seriously. That research that I’ve been mentioning – it has been on people who practice compassion meditation daily. It’s that simple.

In your mind and your heart, say to yourself, then to someone you love unconditionally, then to someone you are in conflict with, then to someone you don’t know very well, then to the whole world:
May I/you/we be filled with loving kindness
May I/you/we be well
May I/you/we be peaceful and at ease
May I/you/we be happy

Give it try. Practice it daily for a month and notice the difference in you. So much to gain, and so very little to lose…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

373048_499965006732668_66503604_nA stress management workshop you won’t want to miss…

“Finding Balance in Your Life”

Is stress getting in the way of your work-life balance? Manage your stress to protect your health and stay productive!

New research clearly shows the link between stress and illness. Our busy lives can take a toll on our health and well-being if we don’t actively do something about it. Learn what you can do to manage your stress and keep yourself healthy, well and productive day in and day out.

This will be an interactive 4-part workshop series addressing the impact of mind, body, and spirit on your overall health and well-being.

Topics include:
April 9th, 6:30-7:45pm: “Finding Balance in Your Life”
May 14th, 6:30-7:45pm: “Coping Well with Change”
June 11th, 6:30-7:45pm: “The Power of Choice”
July 9th, 6:30-7:45pm: “Getting the Most Out of Your Communication”

Intuitive Psychology, P.L.C., is offering this series of dynamic workshops the second Tuesday of every month, from 6:30-7:45pm.

Space is limited to ensure a positive learning environment, so call our office manager today, (480) 261-4061, to reserve your spot! Registration is $50 prepaid, with any accompanying significant others or family members half-price – $25)

SPECIAL OFFER: Mention you saw this on my blog when calling and get 10% off your registration!

Hope you can join us…

Be Happy and Well,

Sari Roth-Roemer, Ph.D.

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