Archive for June, 2012


Follow your dreams. You deserve to be happy. How many times have you heard these things from other people? A lot? A little? Never? No matter. How many times have you heard it from deep inside yourself? How can you get to your dreams and your happiness if you don’t have hope and belief that you can? That’s where it starts, you know, with yourself. Others won’t get you to your dreams; you will.

Have you ever actually defined your dreams? Have you envisioned them? Do you know what they look like? It’s hard to get what you want if you don’t define it for yourself. Now, I don’t mean that you have to know every last detail of what your dream looks like. That kind of preconception can lead to disappointment and confusion. But, I do mean in a broad sense, allow yourself to envision what “happy” looks like for you. Let yourself to feel the happiness that the image of it creates for you; then take the steps you need to get there, all the while trusting that you will get there, in time, small step by small step. Allow yourself to enjoy the steps as you take them, because they will make you happy now, knowing that you’re moving along your path.

Take a deep breath or two, and listen out for that inner voice deep within you that tells you, you can do it. Because you absolutely can…if you want to…if you don’t allow yourself to stand in your own way with your self-doubt and your fears…

  • Take a look at the fear and the doubt you’re holding onto and envisioning and let it go.
  • Let go of the struggle and allow yourself to follow the vision of your dreams and not your fears. 
  • Breathe in faith and confidence in yourself.
  • Smile at the image of your happiness, bringing it into the present with you now.

How does this sound to you? Will you give it a try, purposefully envisioning your dream, every day for a week or two or three or four and let me know where it takes you? I will, if you will…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

There’s a lot going on these days. For some of us that means focusing our attention on more than one thing at a time, sometimes even four, five, six or seven things at a time! What happens when our attention gets fractionated to that degree? What toll does it take?

Well, sometimes, without meaning to or even realizing it, we just shut off our awareness. We go into our heads, planning and organizing and trying to figure out how we’re going to do it all, to such a degree that we lose attention to all that is going on around us in the moment. We in essence, disconnect. We walk zombie like through our lives, without really connecting to anything or anyone because we’re so on overload. Sometimes we internalize so much, we even get sick.

It’s at these times of high stress, and disconnection, we run the risk of losing touch with all that matters most to us. We lose our own answers, we lose ourselves. We become more concerned about controlling what’s happening in our lives, than participating fully in our lives. The problem is not just that we’re busy, but that we’ve stopped paying attention to what’s going on in the moment. When the morning has passed without realizing where it went, when you’ve driven your car through ten stoplights without knowing how, when the end of the day comes and you can’t remember all that you’ve done, than this may be happening in your life.

Good news. You can wake up now if you want. Open your eyes to your surroundings. Take a breath. Enjoy the moment. Ground yourself in the details of all that you see. Look at the clouds in the sky, look into the face smiling at you from across the table, feel the water on your hands as you wash your dishes, see all the different cars on the road around you. And as you do this, let yourself smile at the knowledge that all you need to do, you are doing in this very moment. The next moment will come, and you will do the same. Each moment will connect and all that you need to accomplish will get accomplished.

That doesn’t mean you can’t keep a list of the five or six or seven things you need to get done. It just means that you allow yourself to accomplish each task one at a time and pay attention to each as you are doing it. Challenge yourself to do one thing at a time. See how much more efficient you are in the long run, because of your increased attentiveness. In paying attention to each moment you are in, each task you are participating in, you enable yourself to connect more fully to your life and to the lives of those around you. And that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

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