All too often when we look towards our future, we worry. Why do we do that? Interestingly, for most of us, it’s often an attempt to control through anticipation anything bad that might/could happen. The problem is, not only does it not control for that, it actually points us in the direction of our worries, often leaving us feeling more out of control. Now why in the world would we want that? Of course, we don’t intentionally want that. We do it out of habit, typically in an automatic mindless state. What happens if instead we catch ourselves worrying and purposely redirect our attention from what we don’t want to happen onto what we do want to happen? What happens if we decide to point our arrow where we want it to go, rather than where we’re fearful it will go? The answer is, of course, we’re more like to achieve our goals, get what we want, and feel more in control. That sounds good to me. How about you? What happens if you practice paying attention? When the mind is wandering onto possible negative future scenarios, the head starts hurting, the stomach starts aching, the neck and back get sore, ask yourself, “how is it helping me now to focus on my worries?” Remind yourself that you are the one in control of your thoughts, and of your life, and that when you focus on what you hope will happen you will necessarily feel better. Then redirect your thoughts on how you would like things to be, and allow yourself to take steps, no matter how small, in that direction. Think how good that could feel? Now, this doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen or that there won’t be obstacles along your path. It means that those challenges won’t deter you, if you can allow yourself to keep your eye on your goals. You can accomplish whatever you put your mind to…so pay attention where you’re putting your mind!

 

Where is your arrow aimed?

 

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

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