Archive for April, 2012


All too often when we look towards our future, we worry. Why do we do that? Interestingly, for most of us, it’s often an attempt to control through anticipation anything bad that might/could happen. The problem is, not only does it not control for that, it actually points us in the direction of our worries, often leaving us feeling more out of control. Now why in the world would we want that? Of course, we don’t intentionally want that. We do it out of habit, typically in an automatic mindless state. What happens if instead we catch ourselves worrying and purposely redirect our attention from what we don’t want to happen onto what we do want to happen? What happens if we decide to point our arrow where we want it to go, rather than where we’re fearful it will go? The answer is, of course, we’re more like to achieve our goals, get what we want, and feel more in control. That sounds good to me. How about you? What happens if you practice paying attention? When the mind is wandering onto possible negative future scenarios, the head starts hurting, the stomach starts aching, the neck and back get sore, ask yourself, “how is it helping me now to focus on my worries?” Remind yourself that you are the one in control of your thoughts, and of your life, and that when you focus on what you hope will happen you will necessarily feel better. Then redirect your thoughts on how you would like things to be, and allow yourself to take steps, no matter how small, in that direction. Think how good that could feel? Now, this doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen or that there won’t be obstacles along your path. It means that those challenges won’t deter you, if you can allow yourself to keep your eye on your goals. You can accomplish whatever you put your mind to…so pay attention where you’re putting your mind!

 

Where is your arrow aimed?

 

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

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Change does not occur in the midst of comfort. We know it’s true, but unfortunately, most of us humans tend to really like comfort. Change can seem scary at times, because it’s new and we don’t always know what to expect. But if we do the same thing over and over, we will not grow, we will not change, we will simply become stuck in the same never ending routine. So what should we do about it? If we’re tired of the way things are and we want something to change… we must simply…listen to our intuition about what direction to go next and PUSH OURSELVES to try new things. Acknowledge the fear, the anxiety, the worry and step forward despite it, knowing that you can move through it and past it. Use those feelings as an energizing force instead of a block. Maybe even reinterpret them as excitement, wonder and curiosity.

If you are thinking about doing something that you think you might enjoy, but it makes you feel a little uncomfortable…do it anyway. If you’ve got a project you want to start, but are afraid of it not turning out the way you’d like it to…do it anyhow. If you’ve been invited out to spend time with people you enjoy, but you are tired and just don’t feel like going…go despite your fatigue. Why? You’ll grow if you do. Your brain will make new neural connections, you’ll learn new information, you’ll add to your world view, and who knows, you might just have a good time doing it!

And if at first you don’t succeed…well, you know that story…

What do you say? Will you give it a try? What’s something new you could try right now? Let me know how it turns out…

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

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