Archive for January, 2012


Have you ever thought that maybe the reactions we like the least about ourselves – anxiety, fear, shame, quick temper, to name but a few – could actually be of benefit to us? What I mean is, perhaps these often unpleasant-to-experience emotional states, could in fact, be a sort of alarm system for us. When we feel those feelings, maybe we need to take a look at what we are doing in the moment that is bringing up those emotions.

Let me give a little example…I have this wonderful patient that I have been working with for the past year. (He knows I’m writing this about him, without revealing his identity.) He’s one of those people that when he sets his mind to something, he gets it done. He’s been anxious much of his life. It’s been an automatic response. When something he doesn’t like occurs, he tends to get anxious about it, feeling a loss of control. We’ve been working on some physical symptoms that he’s been experiencing and looking at them as things that just “are.” He began to learn to examine his response to these symptoms and in particular, he began to examine the perspective he was taking. Soon he noticed, he would still get anxious initially in response to the symptom, but with awareness, he was able to look at why he was worried, come up with a plan to deal with it, and soon enough the anxiety would go away. He began to see that the problems that made him anxious were problems that did need solving, but the anxiety made the problem bigger rather than smaller. Once he learned to recognize his anxiety, he was able to tap into his intuition about what he needed to do, he was able to solve the problem, and ultimately he was able to feel better faster. He realized that while he still had some anxiety, once he became aware of it, he was able to use it as a cue to solve a problem that needed solving. His anxiety was no longer “bad”, instead it became a valuable tool that helped him recognize when there was work that needed to be done.

So, what do you think? What are your “alarm bells” telling you?

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Today we honor a man named Martin Luther King. So many wonderful quotes from this visionary intuitive, who still inspires us today. One of my faves: “Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

How often are we faced with the choice to let go of strict ration (seeing is believing) and rely on faith (knowing is believing)? Faith in ourselves, faith in others, faith in something greater than ourselves, all of it requires a letting go and believing what we know intuitively. I’m not talking about “blind” faith. I’m talking about hooking in to our inner wisdom and doing what we “feel” and “know” is the right thing. That can be scary at first…kinda like taking that step on the unseen staircase Dr. King speaks of. But once you gain comfort in the practice of this, it’s actually easier than you might imagine. What are your thoughts on this topic?


Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

The joys of impermanence?

What comes will go…we know it’s true…sometimes this is easier to accept than others. We know that change is inevitable, but so often we live our lives as if things will always remain the same. But what are we setting ourselves up for when we do this? Resistance to change and disappointment when it occurs, of course. The truth is, change is good. It represents the dynamic flow of life. Change is growth and without it we are stagnant and blocked on our path.

What happens if we reframe our view of change? What happens if we tell ourselves change is ultimately an opportunity for growth? What if we keep our eyes open for the rewards that come from it? And what happens if instead of dreading the change that will inevitably come, we instead know that it will come, accept it when it does and maybe even look forward to the new opportunities it will likely bring?

Dread and disappointment or excitement and curiosity? We know which you’d likely prefer, but which will you purposefully choose?

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

How about starting the yearoff right by listening to that marvelous intuition of yours? Find a comfy place to sit. Close your eyes. Get in tune with your breath, the in and out of it,the rise and fall of your abdomen. Smile…and listen now. Listen to your breath, listen to your heart, listen to your inner wisdom. Connect through your breath to all that is around you. All that you are a part of. Enjoy it. Don’t expect a lightening bolt of inspiration. If that comes, terrific, but if it doesn’t, don’t be disappointed. Instead maybe just ‘be‘. Allow yourself to just simply enjoy the moment for what it is. Taking time just for you to be quiet, to ‘plug in’, to just be you. Say a prayer if you’d like, or just listen to your breathing. Let your thoughts simply come and go, without holding on. Smile and enjoy. Take a minute, take a few minutes, take as long as you like. There’s no right way to do this. Just doing it, is right for you.

So, how was it? Nice, hard, easy, difficult? Will you make time for yourself in this way every day? Just a moment or two is all you need. What do you think?

Happy New Year my friends…

Be happy and well,


Sari Roth-Roemer

A new blog for a new year!

I couldn’t fix the problems on my old blog. Having a discussion with you through your comments is so important to me and for some reason the old blog just wouldn’t be fixed to allow it for some reason. So here we are. Friends on a new page. Let’s try again, shall we?

Happy New Year my friends…welcome to my new blog…thanks for coming along!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

P.S. I imported my old blog to this new blog, so if there’s any old stuff you want to look up, go for it!

Happy New Year

If you want to be happy, be.’ … Leo Tolstoy


Be what you want to be this year, my friends. Limit the guilt, limit the worry, limit the judgments and just be what you want to be…happy, kind, generous, creative, open-minded, loving, independent, content, prosperous, spiritual, successful, healthy…whatever you want to be…just listen to your intuition, set your intention and do it. Why not? What better time to start doing what you know you want to be doing?


Happy, Kind, Generous, Creative, Open-Minded, Loving, Independent, Content, Prosperous, Spiritual, Successful, Healthy (or what ever else you want it to be) New Year to you!


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

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