“Oh, No!” “This is not turning out at all the way I want it.” “This is never gonna work.” Blood pressure rises, breath shortens, feelings of fear, anger, sadness, hopelessness creep into our hearts and we are instantly sunk.

Few things block us more than our own frustrations and fears. At that initial moment of intense emotion, we are often fixed on the problem and not the solution. We are telling ourselves over and over what we don’t want to happen, what we fear will happen. We are viewing negative and often frightening outcomes. All our energy is going towards what we don’t want. How can that possibly be helpful?

So what’s the solution? Simply to know that there is a solution, even if we don’t know what it is yet. I’m not saying don’t get frustrated. That would be impossible. Of course we will always have cause for frustration. What I’m talking about is what to do with it when it comes. I’m talking about not allowing ourselves to get stuck in it. Rather, acknowledge it, tolerate it, and let yourself feel it, but recognize that there is an answer to it. The real trick is temporarily allowing yourself to tolerate the unknown of what that solution will be, and to just know it’s coming your way…

What do you think?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

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